In a world that sometimes pits our Queerness against our spirituality, it’s easy to feel like we’re constantly at odds with ourselves. But here’s the thing: you are inherently good and worthy, just as you are.
Why Is This Important?
Navigating this intersection isn’t always easy, especially when we’ve been bombarded with messages that tell us otherwise. Perhaps you’ve encountered teachings that reject or condemn your identity, leaving you feeling lost or disconnected from your spirituality. But here’s the truth: spirituality is deeply personal, and it can take many forms.
Whether you find solace in organised religion, nature, or your own beliefs, know that there is space for you here. You have the power to define your own spirituality, on your own terms. It’s about finding what resonates with you, what brings you peace, and what helps you feel connected to something greater than yourself.
My Own Wrestling
This is something that I battled with for many years – and still have days where it can creep back in. Wrestling with whether my Queerness and being married to a woman was okay, was long and arduous. I argued on a weekly basis with my therapist and went around in circles in some sessions pulling apart doctrine and internalised messages.
Eventually, I found myself in a space where I wasn’t as combative and frankly I didn’t care as much. There was no moment where I realised that I was good as I am – it was a slow and natural progression towards acceptance.
I often get asked where I landed, and I landed in a place of love. Love for the uniqueness of everyone’s and my own identity – not in spite of it but because of it. For the record, I am not interested in love that is disguised as hate – thats not love and it never will be.
Yeah, But What Do You Believe?
Honestly, I don’t have an answer to that. I certainly would not call myself a Christian; there is too much heaviness that comes with that label. Labels are also something that I don’t feel the need to have anymore. I don’t want to be boxed into a type of faith or spirituality that I should have or that I am allowed to have. It seems much more spiritual to me, to work that out myself without all the rules.
Whilst I don’t ascribe to any one faith – I do have faith.
- I have faith in myself.
- I have faith in the universe.
- I have faith in humanity.
- Some days, I have faith in God – whoever she is.
You Are Good.
I will often say to the people I work with “you may not believe that you are good, but I do and so for now you can just trust that I believe that”. So, until you reach a place where you believe this for yourself – I will do the believing for you.
Your Queerness is a beautiful part of your identity, and for some this may be the first time that has been said to you. For that, I am deeply sorry and I am hopeful that as you continue to explore your identity and spirituality that you will come to believe the things that I already do.
Those things are…
- You are good.
- You are worthy.
- You are whole.
- You are loved.
Just as you are, no terms and conditions or redemption necessary.
I Don’t Know How To Get There…
That’s okay. I know it may be scary to not have all the answers, after all we used to find safety in certainty.
There are still days where I find myself in moments of panic or anxiety about the eternal impact of the work that I am doing or the life I am living. The key word there is ‘moments’; they don’t last forever and they don’t impact me the same way that they used to.
To get to that place takes time, patience, good support, willingness to explore, curiosity and above all else self-compassion.
This is not easy work, but it is possible.
This is not linear work, but it is possible.
Surrounding yourself with supportive and affirming people is important. I may seem bias but finding a therapist who is religious trauma-informed and Queer affirming will be invaluable. However, I am aware that this is a privilege and that therapy is not always accessible on an ongoing basis.
Embracing Queerness & Faith
So, I poured all of my heart and soul into a resource for you. This workbook has been carefully designed to create a safe and supportive space for you to reflect, explore, and reconcile your Queerness with your spiritual beliefs.
Throughout this workbook, you will find various exercises, reflections, and opportunities for self-discovery. I encourage you to engage with these activities openly and honestly, allowing yourself the space to explore your own beliefs, emotions, and experiences.
Remember, this is a personal journey, and there is no right or wrong way to navigate it. It is about finding your own path and embracing your unique identity.
I haven’t officially launched it yet and I am offering it at an introductory price until that point. There are 3 ways you will hear about it quietly.
- Follow me over on Instagram. There will be a post in the coming days where I will softly launch it.
- Join my mailing list, it will be in my next email going out. Head here, and you can join and get my free ebook at the same time!
- If you just too excited to get it, you can email me directly for the link! Email me at [email protected]
I am so thrilled to be getting this into the inboxes of people who need reminding of their goodness and want to dive into exploring that for themselves!