- Do you feel like your anger has been shamed, policed, or ignored for most of your life?
- Are you ready to stop apologising for feelings that have been silenced?
- Do you want guided, practical ways to reclaim your voice and boundaries?
- Are you craving practices that meet you where you are; body, mind, and history included?
- What if you could experience anger as guidance instead of guilt?
- Are you done with shame dictating what you can or can’t feel?
Fuck Being Holy: Defiance Rituals for Reclaiming Anger After High-Control Religion - $35
You’ve been taught to doubt yourself. To feel wrong, small, or dangerous when you express anger, say no, or just exist fully. Maybe you’ve carried shame for as long as you can remember, learned to manage your feelings, soften your voice, and make yourself safe for everyone else.
This resource exists for the part of you that wants to stop apologising for being human. It’s a 69-page guided experience of defiance rituals, reflective exercises, and simple practices designed to help you reconnect with your anger. Not as something to purge, perform, or fix, but as information, protection, and truth.
It’s something you can move through at your own pace, adapt to fit your life, and return to whenever you need to remember: you don’t have to carry shame around anger anymore.
Why This Matters
Religious trauma doesn’t just take your beliefs, it can leave your body and nervous system on high alert for years. You might notice shame, hypervigilance, self-doubt, or guilt showing up long after leaving. Anger, your natural, protective signal can feel unsafe or forbidden.
This is why structured, guided support matters. It’s not about “figuring yourself out” or telling you how to feel. It’s about providing a safe container to explore, name, and act with your anger in ways that feel manageable, embodied, and meaningful.
Because reclaiming anger isn’t optional, it’s part of reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your life.
What’s Included
This isn’t a quick read. It’s not a set of tips you skim and forget. It’s a step-by-step companion designed around your lived experience:
Orientation & Safety: Grounding practices, nervous-system-aware preparation, and guidance for feeling held and steady before doing the work. So that when you step into defiance, you actually feel safe.
Defiance Rituals: Five guided rituals that help you confront shame, name what’s been taken, reclaim anger, and reconnect with your voice. Each designed with your body, boundaries, and capacity in mind, so you can act instead of just thinking.
Reflection & Integration: Structured prompts and journalling space to process what comes up, notice patterns, and translate your work into everyday life. So that anger becomes your ally, not a source of fear.
Personal Insights: Stories and perspective from me, someone who’s lived through religious harm and learned to trust their anger, so that you don’t feel alone or unheard.
This is about giving you both a process and a place to land. So that you can move through shame, notice anger, and practice choosing yourself without judgement.
Who It’s For
This resource is for you if:
- You’ve left a high-control or harmful religious system but still carry shame, fear, or self-doubt.
- You struggle to trust your anger or feel safe expressing it.
- You want guided, tangible practices that are trauma-aware and embodied.
- You’re ready to reclaim parts of yourself that were dismissed, shamed, or policed.
- You want something to return to again and again, not a one-off “fix.”
It’s not for people looking for a spiritual quick-fix or generic self-help pep talk. It’s for the part of you that’s ready to sit with your anger, trust yourself, and learn to act in ways that feel alive and true.